As humans, we all are different and say things that different people perceive differently. There are always implications attached to any verbal slip –ups and to understand the prospective of these implications require the capacity of understanding the emotions and experiences which the other people go through.

There is quite a lot of research done on emotional intelligence and major results suggest that social awareness is a skill in which many of us are lacking.

This Lacking in social awareness comes because we are paying more and more attention towards what we are going to say and we completely lose the perspective of the other side.

Human nature is complex and you can’t hope to understand someone until you focus all of your attention in his or her direction. The most amazing part of social awareness is with a simple fine-tuning you can have a major positive impact on your association with the other people.

Emotionally intelligent people are always careful to avoid some phrases in even casual conversation. I believe, given below are six unpleasant phrases one should stay away.

1.“ Told you …”

People have different nature, and with time change do affect the nature as well, the phrase gives a perception that you get insulted if you have to repeat yourself. This can be a difficult proposition for a person who really wants to hear you out.

Instead say: when you are repeating yourself, make it sound more interesting, so the other person can remember it better

2.“ You appear drained …”

Tired people are unbelievably unappealing—they have droopy eyes and messy hair, they have trouble concentrating.

Instead say: “Is everything okay?” Just changing the sentence with change the whole perception of the question. Instead of assuming someone’s disposition, just ask. This way, he can open up and share. More importantly, he will see you as concerned instead of rude.

3.“ You for all times …”

Nothing is to always, people don’t always do one thing are not one dimensional, so you should not describe them as such.

Instead say: Simply point out what the other person did that’s a problem for you. Stick to the facts. If the frequency of the behavior is an issue, you can always say, “It seems like you do this often.”

4.“ You’ve lost a lot of weight!”

Well, again the sentence creates an impression that you’re being critical, although a compliment. But making someone realize that they have lost a considerable amount of weight advocate the they used to be fat.

Instead say: “You look fantastic.” It is a good alternative rather comparing how the person use to look and how they look now, just compliment them for looking great.

5.“ You look young for your age.”

Everyone wants to be fit and smart, they want to look younger so they can convey the energy, Using “for your” as a qualifier always comes across as condescending and rude.

Instead say: “You look great.” This is a great alternative and a real compliment.

6.“Told you …”

People have different nature, and with time change do affect the nature as well, the phrase gives a perception that you get insulted if you have to repeat yourself. This can be a difficult proposition for a person who really wants to hear you out.

Instead say: when you are repeating yourself, make it sound more interesting, so the other person can remember it better

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